Have you ever wondered how to overcome insecurity?
If you are like most women, overcoming insecurity doesn’t just happen. You need solid truth for dealing with it and putting insecurity in it’s place.
After a recent bout with insecurity, I searched online, “What does the Bible say about insecurity” and got back a few good results.
But honestly, most of what I found wasn’t too terribly helpful. It wasn’t very practical. It was more surface level (like a summary of the topic in the Bible) and it didn’t come with a set of godly friends to bounce ideas off of, power through with, and help encourage me to good works. :)
I honestly think insecurity is one of those things we best overcome while in community with others.
We see insecurity in the Bible mostly in the lives of characters like Moses, Timothy, and Saul. The good news is that their stories CAN help us re-write our stories from insecure to secure, timid to confident.
We’re going to talk about some keys to overcoming insecurity in this post but first, I want to ask you a personal question:
Have you ever let an opportunity slip through your fingers because of insecurity?
I remember the first time it happened to me. I was starting 6th grade at a new private school. It was orientation day and all the kids were huddled around the class roster posted on the classroom doors.
I was the new kid. The outsider. Since this was a Christian school, most everyone else had grown up in this school.
Two girls approached me. “You must be…” and they said my name. “Wanna walk around the campus with us?”
I was so scared, so insecure that anyone would like or include me, that I told them no.
I actually told them no.
They looked shocked, then shrugged their shoulders and walked off.
Honestly, I was relieved. I was “safe.”
The year continued to go much the same way. The girls all thought I was a snob. I was okay with that because it was better than them knowing the humiliating truth: I was terrified.
That’s the first…but not the last… time my insecurity cost me relationships. True friendship. Intimacy. Personal growth through being real, honest, and transparent.
What about you, can you relate? What has insecurity cost you?
A dream job?
The adventure of a lifetime?
Truly exercising your gifts?
If you’re like me, when you realize what insecurity has cost you, it’s clear that overcoming insecurity needs to become a priority ASAP! Unfortunately, insecurity isn’t something we grow out of. We must take deliberate steps to crush it in our lives.
We must master it… or it will marginalize us.
How to overcome insecurity
Overcoming Insecurity Tip #1: Overcoming insecurity starts with identifying it in our lives and with recognizing the high cost it carries.
Until we are dissatisfied with the way insecurity has robbed us, marginalized us, and marked us, we will never be motivated to take action and do things differently.
On the flip side, once we are honest with ourselves about the effects of insecurity in our lives, we then can make the choice to fight back.
Overcoming Insecurity Tip #2: Realize that confidence is a choice. Then start choosing it.
This was actually one of the most liberating truths I discovered when I began studying the topic of insecurity in the Bible. We have the ability to choose confidence!
Confidence isn’t a personality trait (although it does come more naturally to some than others). It’s a skill that can be learned and a choice that can be chosen.
Or if you prefer, my good friend (who is a social skills coach) told me, “Confidence is an emotion and you can control your emotions.”
So, so good!
The best news is that Scripture points the way for us when it comes to insecurity, from principles and precepts to stories and examples, instructing us how to avoid the pitfalls of insecurity and write a different story.
If you are ready to be done with insecurity, I’d like to personally invite you to dive into these the Scriptures together, in a group setting, and let them change YOUR story. For the better.
I’m hosting my FIRST EVER Community-wide Bible study experience and I’d like to offer the first slots to YOU.
Oh, I sure do hope to see you there!
Together, let’s choose confidence.
P.S. If you’re not able to join us for the Group experience, don’t worry! We plan to release the self-guided Bible Study near the end of 2018!