5 Reasons Why Christians Should Have More Sex
I probably don’t need to belabor the point that many marriages are lackluster when it comes to Christian sex. We are currently running a series on intimacy within Christian marriage and today, I want to share with you 5 reasons why Christians should have more sex!
We typically believe the world has the edge on how to add sizzle… not the church folks we smile and shake hands with on Sunday. Yet the truth is, the Christian marriage bed should be so stand apart and satisfying that it makes everyone else envious.
If there were ever a time when sex between a married man and woman should be red hot and enviable, that time is now. We live in a culture that sees one man-one woman married sex as boring, bland and vanilla flavored. Scripture teaches just the opposite: this type of sex can be passionate, rich, meaningful and downright sacred.
As a married woman who appreciates godly reminders of the purpose and potential of sex, I’d like to offer a few convincing reasons why we as Christian women should have more sex with our men.
5 Reasons Why Christians Should Have More Sex
1. Christian Sex makes a theological statement
Sex reveals the heart of God towards His people. While Scripture reveals God’s nature through His many names, attributes and deeds, sex, like nothing else, shows us the raw passion God has for His people. Ephesians 5 teaches marriage is a reflection of Christ and His bride. Sex in marriage shows us the way Christ passionately pursues His bride, how He takes deep pleasure from and with her, how He deepens His union with her in private, mysterious, even holy ways. Sex within marriage reflects this intimate union between Christ and His bride, the church.
We can hold sex in high regards because it reveals mysteries about God Himself.
2. Christian Sex protects the heart from insecurity.
A woman’s tendency to insecurity is no big secret. Which is why being 100% open and vulnerable with another human being… and receiving his acceptance and passionate touch in return… is a huge step in liberating the female heart from insecurity. To find acceptance from someone is a powerful thing, especially when it comes through such a deep, vulnerable activity as sex. Read more about married Christian sexuality to find why Christians should have more sex.
We can embrace sex as a means to receiving acceptance.
3. Christian Sex drives out shame.
Two of the deadliest things Satan wants to do with sex is 1. Make “wrong” sex right and 2. Make “right” sex shameful. Many Christian men and women struggle with the latter. To be naked and un-ashamed is a gift husbands and wives can give one another. The provision of Christ means that sexual sin, past sexual abuse, sexual imperfections and shortcomings all have redemption in Christ. In Christ there is a covering for sexual sin and healing for sexual wounds. The godly marriage bed is a place where these wonderful truths play out and become tangible. {If you struggle with shame, I invite you to read my story on overcoming childhood shame here.}
We can engage in sex without shame and in a way that reflects the redemption of Christ.
4. Christian Sex guards against lust and sexual impurity.
Many men- if not most- struggle with sexual temptation. We serve our husbands in a spiritual capacity when we minister to them sexually (I Corinthians 7:3-5). I’m not talking about being a sex slave; I’m talking about being a willing, frequent participant in sexual activity and allowing ourselves to enjoy it. Even when sex isn’t enjoyable (due to physical or emotional reasons), Christians should have more sex as a way to bless and serve someone we deeply love and in fact are one with. Read this Christian sex guide to find out what is acceptable in the bedroom!
If sex is a struggle due to libido, please check out this post full of encouragement for Christian low libido.
We can choose to willingly serve our husbands by being his sexual partner.
5. Christian Sex glorifies God.
If we are to eat and if we are to drink in a way that glorifies God, we are definitely to have sex in a way that glorifies Him (I Corinthians 10:31). Christians often think glorifying God means following a certain set of Christian sex rules. But sex that glorifies God is not just monogamous sex that simply abides by a bunch of rules. Sex glorifies God when 1. It is passionate (Song of Solomon) 2. It is pleasurable (Proverbs 5:18-19) 3. It is pure (I Thessalonians 4:3) 4. It is sanctifying (Ephesians 5:22-30) 5. It serves your spouse (I Corinthians 7:3-5) 6. It deepens your intimacy with God (Ephesians 5:31-32). Check out this Christian sex advice for married couples!
This kind of sex is our birthright in Christ… and this is why Christians should have more sex!
Need a jump start? Check out our entire series on Christian sex and intimacy in marriage. And hey, why not take the challenge to pray scriptures over your sex life? Praying scriptures will give you a biblical vision for what your sex life can be, transforming it from the inside out. Grab your guide and start praying today!
