5 Attitudes of the Well Watered Woman

The attitudes of a godly woman come from a deeply rooted faith. Learn how to develop a stronger root system using these 5 disciplines of a godly woman.


When a tree has a good root system, it reaches down and draws moisture and nutrients from an unseen source.


No matter what is going on above ground, this tree doesn’t live by those events…it thrives on what is under the ground, hidden.


Likewise, a well watered woman lives from her roots (not the hair kind).


Have you ever seen someone struggling with a severe illness yet full of praise and overflowing with good fruit? That is someone living from her root system.   Or what about someone experiencing emotional pain,  grief, or loss, yet still exudes the joy and gentleness of Jesus? That is someone living from her root system, not her situation.


I want a root system that nourishes my soul when external circumstances of life are wearisome and challenging. Scripture promises we can live this way. “And she shall be like a tree planted by streams of water, that yieldeth its fruit in due season.” (Psalm 1:3)


Jeremiah 17:8 says,  “Even in a season of drought, she needs not be afraid…”    Living from the right roots not only maintains our fruitfulness,  it also calms our fears in difficult times.


As I’ve meditated on Scripture and re-visited passages such as Matthew 5 and Isaiah 58, I’ve identified 5 key attitudes of a godly woman. These are “root” attitudes we can live by, which help us to attain godly grace goals, those goals and dreams God has laid on our hearts to accomplish, regardless of age or stage in life.

 The attitudes of a godly woman come from a deeply rooted faith. Learn how to develop a stronger root system using these 5 attitudes of a godly woman.


5 Attitudes of a Godly Woman

1. “I’m going to be generous… especially when I feel I can’t afford to be.”


Generosity applies to time, affection, energy, and love, as well as money. It is beautifully illustrated by the widow in II Kings 17. There was a severe famine and she was down to her last bit of oil and flour. (To make this practical, go ahead and think of what you are down to the last little bit of. )

This widow planned on making one last loaf of bread for herself and her son, then die of starvation.

When Elijah showed up, he asked her to use what she had to first make him a small loaf of bread.

Sorta crazy, right? But he promised her that God would provide an unlimited supply of flour and oil until the famine ended if she would give her last bit.

Reminds me of what God has promised us in II Corinthians 9:8, “And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.”

When we give away what we can’t afford to give away, we open ourselves to  receive multiple times more. This principle is repeated over and over throughout scripture and is essential to living well watered.

[Action Step: How can you be generous today? Maybe you can make two batches of a meal today and surprise your neighbor with a tasty gift?]

2. “I’m going to live vulnerable…even though others may scoff or take advantage of me.”


Women can be great at self-protection. We learn how to protect ourselves beginning very early in life. But the alternative to living vulnerable is living walled off. Over time, it leads to hardness. Then cynicism and operating through a bitter worldview. Even to oppressive and mean behavior.

Matthew 5:4 says, “Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.”   This applies to many types of mourning, but one way is those who allow themselves to be pained through their vulnerability. In other words, those who allow themselves to be hurt, who don’t self-protect or wall themselves off, those are the blessed ones.

The well watered Christian woman has come to realize any wound or slight they receive from being vulnerable is preferable to being hard. She has learned how to be a positive person. Undoubtedly, some of you know what I’m saying and are beautiful for it.

[Action Step: What is a consistent negative worldview that goes through your mind on consistent basis? Take that thought captive and replace it with a positive praiseworthy verse. Memorize that verse and every time your brain wants to remind you of that bitter thought, cut the thought off and work on the memorization of your praise worthy verse. One of my favorite praise-verses is found in Psalm 95]

3. “I’m going to guard my heart by protecting my ears from the world’s noise.”


A godly woman has to know who NOT to listen to.

In this day of information overload, we hear tens, if not hundreds, of different voices in any given day. It really is phenomenal. Facebook and other social media platforms are a prime example of voices competing for our attention. It’s exhausting! When we open ourselves to all this noise it causes overwhelm and feeds into anxiety. In fact, I’ve created a list of things to do instead of Facebook, to help quiet the noise of the world.

Psalm 1:1-3 says, “Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. But they delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season.”

To live well watered, we’ve got to make some tough choices about what we allow in our ears and in front of our eyes.

[Action Step: Consider a “noise fast” for at least 3 days, turn off news, social media, and anything else the Lord reveals to you that may be stealing your joy. You are removing this noise not to deprive yourself, but rather to make more room in your mind and spirit for God to speak and renew you.]

4. “I’m going to be a servant. This is what it means to be truly great.”


The desire to be important is as old as time itself. Even godly people struggle with finding significance in all the wrong ways (think about the discussion that arose in the Upper Room amongst the disciples as the Lord was eating His last supper).

Daily we receive messages and instructions on how to be great, garner attention, make a difference with our lives, and do something that matters. We have a glory hunger. It is essential to daily renew the heart and mind with the words of Jesus, “Whoever wants to be great among you, be the servant.” (Mark 10:42-44)

{In case you didn’t know, He doesn’t lie.}

[Action Step: Most of us women do not need to be reminded to be of service to our families and communities, so I bet you are already stepping out in this way. So for your action step, I would like to remind you that what you are doing DOES matter, even the small things. You matter. You are doing more than you realize and the small seeds you are planting, God will grow into a great harvest.]

5. “I’m going to trust God to come through for me.”


This one is perhaps most important of all because our ability to live from each of the attitudes above depends on whether or not we really trust God.

Here’s the thing: whatever your need, the gospel purchased the provision for you. But if you don’t believe that, you’ll search for provisions in a thousand different places.

To be sure, God’s provision may not be the one we think we need. Which is another reason why we must trust. Romans 8:32  says, “He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, freely give us all things?”

Christ has purchased for us every provision we need. 

The well watered woman clings to this amazing truth, in all seasons, whatever need arises. Moment by moment our needs change…but God’s provision does not.


When we learn how to live by faith in God’s grace, when we implement these disciplines and attitudes of a godly woman,  we’ll live well watered. Guaranteed.

[Action Step: Trusting God is the fruit of a relational journey with Jesus. His faithfulness in our lives is proof of His trustworthiness. Make a list of times you can recall throughout your life that God has been faithful to His promises to you, even the times when circumstances did not turn out as you expected but He still worked good through it.]

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  1. Great article. Your comment was refreshing: “Warning: These (attitudes) are counter-intuitive and counter-cultural, so be prepared to be UNCOMMON.” Yet the picture you used of the girl in the VERY short skirt was not counter culture. Unfortunately, it’s becoming so common in our culture that Christians are not recognizing how immodest dress is offensive to God and to Scripture.

    1. Kathleen, I understand the point you are making. I have cropped the photo to avoid causing anyone to stumble. At the same time, I think it important to understand that *immodest* is defined very differently for different people. It also varies greatly from culture to culture. I would not be so quick to define something as offensive to God based on your personally definition of modesty.

      1. I feel that is one of the problems that any religion makes, is quick to judge. I’m actually over joyed that I came across this today, and I’m looking forward to having a closer relationship with God! Thanks for doing work for the Kingdom!! Continue to be blessed!!

  2. Be generous and vulnerable. This is what God has been teaching me this year. So necessary for our growth in Him, as His followers. Each of these are truths we need to grab hold of. Thanks for your wise words!

  3. Coming over from the My Girlish Whims link up!

    This is great! Thanks for all the awesome reminders! I have felt myself hardening off my vulnerability lately, so this really spoke to me!

    p.s. I think the picture is cute! :)

  4. Love this Arabah <3. Thank you for so many good truths to be reminded on and ponder. Continuing to be soft and vulnerable and not put up walls is an area I'm continuing to work on and need to be mindful of – thankful for His continuing work in us :).

  5. I love this list and I’m glad I get to read it again. Trusting God to come through for us can be really hard – however, a good friend reminded me that we can always look back at how far we’ve come. For example, I can look back and say, “God hasn’t failed me these past 16 months. I can trust that He won’t fail me in the next 16 months, either.” All of a sudden, 32 months will have gone by, and I can trust God for the next 32 months. It was such a great perspective to take!
    Also, turning our ears off to the world’s noise – that is a hard one for me. Because our writing has us on social media so much, it can be difficult to not get caught up in the noise, whether it’s news, things our friends are doing, etc. This has been a difficult thing for me. As a result, I’m trying to be intentional in narrowing my focus so as to not get wrapped up in things that will bring me down.
    Thank you for sharing these great reminders for us! Blessings, sweet friend!

  6. Found you through Missional Women, Fatih Filled Fridays. Your list is an astute collection for us women, anyone in fact though your examples are indeed women. Thank you forputting it together and sharing it. I plan to share with my teen daughters. Happy Weekend! Linda

  7. What beautiful words of encouragement! It’s so true that while they might be uncommon by popular standards, God’s truth always rings with truth and calls us to a deeper fellowship with Him. It’s a blessing to find you through the Grace & Truth link-up. I’m following you on all social media now and look forward to reading more of what you share!

  8. This is beautiful, encouraging, and uplifting.

    I want to be that well-watered woman (man I love that term). I’m going to have to pray a lot over #2 and #3.

    I’m pinning this to my Deliberate Faith board.

    Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a lovely evening.

  9. I love this! I’m not a religious woman, but I have a ton of faith and this post really spoke to me this morning. I love your warning about being uncommon, it made me smile because that’s me! Sharing! Oh and I found you on the Mom 2 Mom link up from A Joy Filled Life :)

  10. This is a good example of how I want to live! I will save this and refer back to it because, I have a tendency to be forgetful and don’t always do what I intend to do. My sister and I were looking for solutions to a challenge we share in common. Your list of 5 attitudes is the perfect solution to our dilemma! I’m happy that your online ministry caught my attention! Many thanks! I appreciate your outreach!

  11. This was such a great read, number 3 is definitely one I need to work on. I keep remembering “Out of the abundance of the heart…” and trying to fill my heart with things that will cause me to bear fruits of the spirit. Thanks for sharing.

  12. Good stuff here, my friend. Although I’ve “dropped off the map” I still pray for you often. How is your first semester going as a home educator? I’m praying for those unique challenges you’ll face. Your posts are as encouraging and Christ-focused as ever.


  13. I so needed this today. Living with continuous negativity in my life, but I am attempting to focus on being well-watered and determined to stay that way. Your website is a blessing!

  14. Yes , we all need to be well watered especially during trials and conflict because that is when you show where your nourishment comes from thanks so much for these 5 :)

  15. This is speaking right to me. Great biblical examples and scriptures are right on. Thank you for the refreshing.

  16. I can’t believe I ran across this post on FB tonight. It hit me to my core especially since my husband & I just received an unexpected blessing last night! We’ve been praying for months about several important things in our lives & isn’t it just like our Lord to answer prayers in a way we didn’t expect & more than we had even asked for! I want to continue to trust in God for my needs & have a deeper relationship with Jesus. I’m looking forward to becoming a Well watered woman.

  17. You are doing great for God. Be blessed. I will recommend your site to my wife. Your name Arabah in Africa Ghana means a Wednesday born.

  18. God bless you dear sister I have learned over the years of my soon to be 45 years that God is always there and peaple are not they come and they go some leave an empact on our lives that is good others on the other hand don’t but God yes but God he empact us every day and I want that most of all

  19. I love this article so much. I had wondered, if I was living well watered. I am Deaf, it fits so well. Living well watered, as I do not pay attention to the news, the world, and I am able to focus on Jesus and God, as instructed. To be honest, many kept asking why he did not heal me of my Deafness or other silliness and now I can talk about my dream, but I can also say, “Jesus told me to live well watered.” Your article was written back in 2015, but please know even 3 years later – it is still a well thought out and an extremely well written article, thank you so much. I’m going to share it on my FB, saved it on my Pinterest, going to bookmark it, and going to write the verses out on paper. Again, thank you so much. Living well watered, I am blessed beyond my means. <3 Grateful for it too. <3 -Lisa-

  20. Thank you for writing this one! … This is exactly what I was looking for. Your writing article is lovely. I already shared this with my friends and family via Facebook. Again, thank you <3

  21. I’ve been seriously struggling with number 1 & 5 and I know they are linked. I’ve been in a season low income 😂 and it makes me scared to give (money I mean) because I am afraid I won’t have enough. But I know I need to rest in number 5. Thanks for sharing!

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